Thursday, September 11, 2014

10 Things to do After a Breakup

Yes, break ups are bad.  The memories of good times together...  Seeing everyone else in relationships and happy...  Seeing your ex with another, doing the things you would do together...  Jumping heart first into another relationship to try to make yourself feel better...  Breaking off the short relationship, only to find that you really loved him/ her...  Then the cycle begins again.

I'm gonna be honest. I have been in a few successful relationships before. And, like all good things do, they came to an end.  Then the sadness hits you mixed with anger or spite.  Yet, you still want to be happy for your ex, which really seems impossible.

This topic has been one of my most requested posts because love, I find, is a very special yet fragile thing.  If you clutch it too hard, it will break. However, by clutching it too gently, it will fly away.

Recently one of my friends went through and break up and some of the cliche things that friends try to say will only really work for a while. What people really need is cold, hard, and useful advice.

Please do not forget to mention if I forgot anything in the comments below...

1.  Hang out with your friends.
People often underestimate how much your friends can help you. Now this doesn't mean you can kiss and tell, but you can do things together that will take your mind off things and get over it.  Such things you can do are...
 go see some good action movies in the cinema and eat some good junk food.
• go 'dress up' and go to the gym.  nothing beats gossiping about the other hot guys eyeing you at the gym as you work out and look like a hot mess.
• go out and enjoy the nightlife of your area.  not only will this allow you to forget your troubles, but it might help you get back on the playing field with Cupid.  nothing is worse than never getting back up after your heart has been knocked down.
• go out of town and travel, see some things you have never seen before and do things you have never done before.  there really might be no better way to clear your head, and your heart!

2. Go out and enjoy the nightlife (either alone or with others).
By dancing away the night and chilling out with no judgment, all sorrows are done.

3.  Study (if you still are in school).
Just because your heart failed, it doesn't mean that your mind has to as well.

4. Go to work and work hard.
If you do what you love for a living, put more time and effort into it.  Who knows what might happen... you might get promoted... or meet someone else at work...

5. Let your emotions out.
Sometimes it is always the best to just cry or be angry.  As long as you don't hurt anyone or yourself, go right ahead.  It might be apart of the healing process.

6. Turn dat sexy up gurrrlllllll...
Nothing makes a girl feel better than buying a new outfit or getting things done like a mani-pedi or their hair.  Then take the night out and see what you can accomplish...

7.  NEVER GIVE UP!
Always go out with a positive attitude and face life head on.  Never turn your back on life, cause it WILL leave you in the dust.  Music often helps for you to build yourself up and make you feel better really fast!

8. Go to the gym.
Working out releases endorphins and makes you feel good.  Also getting your body into better shape makes anyone feel better.

9. Pick up a hobby and work on it.
Learning to express your feelings are always really healthy and a good way to de-stress.  Personally, I write on this blog or work on my novel, which you all have gotten a taste of on this blog (which I WILL be posting more of it when I get around to it, PROMISE!).  I also paint, write poetry, act, or sing songs.  Find something that works for you and pour your heart and soul into it.
ps.  sometimes when i'm lonely, i write fan-fiction.  comment below if you wanna see some of it.  ^.^

10. Find someone else to fall for.
Now, this does not mean to just have fling after fling, but allow yourself to think of someone else as good looking or cute.  This allows your heart to re-open and gets the radar back on, searching for a guy or girl.

Now those are some of the things I do when going through harder times.  Enjoy and tell me in the comments if this was successful or not.

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